Welcoming a new baby is a joyous experience, but losing one is just as heartbreaking. Sadly, there are far too many parents who understand this pain, including Rachel, who anyone with young children may know.
The entertainer, whose real name is Rachel Griffin Accurso, has 2.2 million followers on Instagram and 11.4 million subscribers on YouTube, many of whom praise her early childhood education videos and honesty.
Rachel revealed on her show in September 2024 that she had previously suffered a miscarriage. The birth mother of these children is now mother to 6-year-old Thomas with her husband Aaron.
In a short and sweet video, the influencer treated her followers to a song about rainbow babies, children born after loss. “My rainbow babies may not be babies anymore but they will always be my rainbow babies,” she captioned the video, adding, “To all who understand love.”
Rachel also posted the video to her Instagram Stories, commenting, “If you understood this song then I’m so sorry. I love you.”
Judging by the comments, it seems like a lot of people get it. As a mother who has suffered four miscarriages, I was also impressed that the poster tagged this post with a trigger warning. In my opinion, trigger warnings are insufficient for this extremely painful subject matter. Thank you, Rachel.
Meanwhile, her melodies are simple and soothing: “Rainbow baby, dreams do come true/Rainbow baby, if you only knew/All the prayers we pray for you/Rainbow baby, dreams do come true.”
Commenters bravely shared their stories, supporting and praising the author for normalizing this taboo topic. One sentiment we need to hear as we know the emptiness of loss is one of the most common comments: “holding someone in your heart who needs love.”
Numerous personal stories show that many of us have experienced loss: “My son came in rainbow colors after seven miscarriages,” one fan bravely stated, “and then I had another miscarriage just months before my daughter was born.”
“It’s the worst club to be in but we’re all here for you!” commented another fan. Another revealed how many people feel alone after a miscarriage, which is why it’s “so important to raise awareness about this and make talking about miscarriage as normal as possible.”
Another commenter pointed out the positive aspects of experiencing loss, writing, “My miscarriage has changed my perspective on motherhood. Having a child is such an honor.”
Finally, I completely agree with the comment that “No matter how many years pass, the pain of that loss never goes away,” and in fact, my two rainbow children are now 6 and 3, and I still hold them almost every night and think about what true miracles they bring.
I don’t need to remind you, but I have a rainbow mural hanging in their room as a tribute to the special circumstances that brought them into our lives. But my boys can’t replace what I’ve lost, and they can’t make up for what I could have been. That’s the harsh truth I face every day.
Like Rachel said, if that feels right, I sympathize, and I hope it gives you some comfort to know that there are others out there walking with you.
